ANONYMOUS SUBMISSION ANSWERED BY PIPER SLOANE
Submission: I recently just started talking to someone of the same gender as me. I really like her and I don’t want to screw things up, but she has a lot more experience having sex with girls than I do. Any advice?
Hi Honey! So, I think it’s important for you to go at your own pace with this situation. Whether you’re coming into your identity more or just starting to become more comfortable sexually, it’s always best to ease into things like this.
Knowing that she has more experience with women than you do can be scary AF, I totally get that, but if you like this girl as much as you say – then communicate these nerves to her.
I’ve been in situations before where I was way under-experienced compared to my partner when it came to sex, and I just looked at them and asked them to show me what they like.
Sex is a learning experience in its own way. Open up to this girl and let her know that you want to be intimate, but could use a little guidance when it comes to satisfying her. I’m sure she’ll be more than happy to talk you through the motions.
Plus, this kind of communication opens the door to comfortability and better sex. It allows you to get more experience sleeping with women and allows them to be in control of their pleasure. This is about you just as much as it’s about her.
Don’t let a lack of experience stop you from sleeping with someone you like because we all have to start somewhere. You won’t screw things up by being honest. You got this!
Love,
Piper x
