By Blanca Amaya
No one wants to get walked in on during sex. It’s a very awkward situation that will require an awkward conversation, and these sorta activities demand privacy. However, we all understand that privacy is not a luxury when you’re living with someone. Well, that’s why I’m here with some tips for you!
Hopefully, you are not intentionally trying to show off to other people, but as someone living with another person, that may happen. It’s necessary to take the proper precautions to prevent you from getting walked in on. Now, I am going to give you some tips to keep your sex life private in the midst of college!
Number one: Lock the door. That may sound very simple, but it could make a difference. Some people, in the heat of the moment, forget to lock their door. Not only does that allow for your roommate to easily walk in, but also other people who are coming to your room for whatever reason. Although locking the door will not always keep your roommate out, at least they will be forced to take out their key to open the door, leaving you time to potentially cover up or yell at them through the door.
Number two: Put a warning sign. I had a friend that
would write “Pineapple” on a sticky note and then place it on their door to alert their roommate that they were doing something in there. It could be beneficial for you and your roommate to also come up with a word or phrase to let the other know when you need the room to yourself. This would work even better if you have a whiteboard on your door; it’s easily writable and erasable after you are done. Now, If you feel embarrassed to do this because it shows that you are having sex, then try not to be. Your roommate and friends will be glad to know they’re not going to walk in on it, at least.
Number three: Text each other when you are bringing someone back to the dorm. If your roommate is comfortable with addressing those types of topics, simply tell them you’re going back with someone. We live in an era of technology; just use it. If you do not want to outright say, “Hey, I’m bringing someone to the dorm,” then maybe come up with a phrase with your roommate so that you both know what you’re talking about without really saying it. The phrase could be anything from “birds and the bees” to “the alien had landed,” whatever floats your boat. You and your roommate will truthfully be grateful you did make a phrase when you are spared from the embarrassment.
However, if your roommate is uncomfortable with all of these options, communicate with them about other alternatives that make them more comfortable and protect your privacy. Sex is a common occurrence and completely natural. Whether it’s for reproduction or simply pleasure, you should never feel timid towards the topic. In a survey created by Dnews, they found that one-third (roughly 33%) of college students reported having sex several times per week. It is not uncommon for people to find someone attractive and want to take them to bed, but when you unwillingly involve someone in your sexual activities, then there is a problem.
Make smart decisions and keep yourself safe!
xo, Blanca
