By Nora Beechwood
ALWAYS obtain consent from your partner before getting sexual. Remember: consent is key.
The human body is like a map: filled with mysteries and treasures. While you may think that you know every landmark, there might be some spots you overlooked because they didn’t look that interesting at face value. However, the areas you passed might make your vacation even better than before.
An erogenous zone is defined as an area on the body that is sensitive to sexual stimulation. These are often the places you’d touch someone if you want to turn them on and make them melt at your touch. There are some obvious ones, like the clitoris or the head of a penis, however, there are many others that you might not be aware of. Or the opposite could be true, you could constantly give these spots attention, but not know that they’re not inherently sexual! Regardless, this is a list of all the spots you should know to drive your partner over the edge.
The neck (from all angles!)
While this one may seem obvious, not many people focus on the neck during intercourse, and may only briefly touch on it during foreplay. Plus, you may only focus on the sides of the neck with kisses and bites, but have you ever considered the nape of the neck? If you want to get really intimate with your partner without getting naked, simply sit behind them, whether it be wrapping your legs around them or sitting in an elevated position where you can access the nape comfortably. Simply trace the nape lightly with your fingertips, and give them the occasional kiss. When you get close to their neck, let out hot, breathy moans and tighten your grip around their torso a little bit. Maybe give them a hickey or two if they want before you head lower. It’s a gentle, but playfully sadistic way to tease your partner.
The stomach
The area just below the belly button and above the pubic mound can be an amazing area to give some attention if you’re making your way down your partner’s body. Believe it or not, you can stimulate the female G-spot through the tissue on the stomach! By focusing on this area, you could get the blood flow down to other areas, helping to arouse your partner and increase their sensitivity for when you finally get downstairs.
This can also be a good area to experiment with temperature play. Tracing an ice cube lightly across the skin, or rubbing a warm, damp washcloth on the stomach before oral sex to really fire things up. If they’re running their hands through your hair and arching their back, you’re doing good.
The inside of the thighs
If you’ve made your way past the stomach, and you know your partner is dying to have you pull down their waistband, have them wait just a little longer. The area inside of a person’s thighs contains a highway of nerves that bundle at their genitalia, so just in case you feel like they are not aroused enough, this will undoubtedly drive them crazy for more.
Start by spreading their legs and laying yourself in between them, having them use your shoulders as support under their knees. Wrap your arms around their thighs, but not too tight since you don’t want to completely restrain them. Turn your head to whichever thigh you want to give attention, and kiss the skin very softly.
This should elicit a reaction out of your partner, whether it be a moan, a heavy sigh out of their mouth, or a slight arch of the back. Tighten your grip on their thighs and press your face harder into their thigh, breathe heavily, and french kiss their skin. The combination of restraint, the wetness of the saliva, and the constant temperature change from your breathing and the air in the room will make them squirm for sure.
If they want, bite their skin gently, and increase the pressure if they ask for you to do more. Hell, give them hickies if they want! The thighs can be a great place to mark someone up, especially the inside of the thighs since they can be easily concealed. Doing this before heading to the money spot in between their legs can help make a world of difference for when they orgasm.
The Nipples/Breasts
Fun fact: these techniques can work for individuals of any gender identity! Since this area of the body can vary in sensitivity from person to person, it’s important to ask your partner if this is an area that they’re comfortable with you touching. If they give you the green light, use your hands to hover around the breasts, lightly touching the skin from time to time.
When you feel that enough has passed, bring your hands over your partner’s areola (the dark spots around the nipples) and swirl your palms and fingers around their nipples. Occasionally brushing over the nipples can send a shock of pleasure pulsating throughout your partner’s body.
Bring your face close into their chest, right in between their breasts, and kiss the skin. Increase the tempo a little bit. Your partner might start to let out breathy moans and curl their legs into their body. Lick the skin on their breasts and let out warm breaths to send shivers down their spine. If you’re both comfortable, very gently bite their breast, and suck on their skin as if you were giving this attention to their neck. If they ask you to go harder, softer, or to move to a different spot on their chest, respect their wishes, as long as you’re okay with it as well. If they want to stop and try something else, immediately pull away, and make sure that you didn’t accidentally injure them.
If you’re still not convinced that you want to try this with your partner, I’ve got one more thing that might convince you: nipple orgasms are a thing, and boy are they heavenly. That’s right, you can have an orgasm or help someone reach one by just nipple stimulation.
The frenulum
This one probably doesn’t ring a bell, but what if I told you it’s the area on the penis where the shaft meets the head. This is an incredibly sensitive spot on the male body, with it even being called “the male clitoris” from time to time. Stimulating this part of the body feels very different from having your whole penis enveloped by something like a hand, as it’s jam-packed with nerve endings, but it could lead to a mind-numbingly extraordinary orgasm that sends shocks through every nerve in your body.
To get to this point, use literally whatever they’re comfortable with. Like the clitoris, this area can be stimulated with fingers, tongues, toys, or anything else that can come to mind. Be sure to use lube to prevent any sort of friction that can cause irritation. The movement can be nice and light, painstakingly slow, or rough and slippery. Encourage them to be vocal in what they want. Even if it’s just a nod or moan of approval, body language can tell you when they’re enjoying it.
The back
This part of the body gets a lot of attention, but the beautiful thing about the back is that there’s so much ground to cover. The back can be touched during foreplay, intercourse, and aftercare. Touching one’s back can be an amazing way to let someone know that you’re having a good time when you can’t quite find the words for it.
When in the missionary position, your hands may go straight to shoulder blades or mid-back. If you’re engaging in foreplay, lightly brush your fingertips along their skin. If you want to take one hand and run it through their hair, by all means, do that too. Giving them scratches can also have the same effect as biting, building and releasing tension, as well as showing domination. Just try not to get lost and accidentally draw blood.
Like mentioned before, the human body is an extraordinary connection of nerves, sensations, and pleasurable spots. While it may seem really daunting and scary to be so vulnerable in front of someone, don’t worry! Map out your body when you have some free time/privacy. After all, there’s no one else in the world who knows yourself better than you!
Always establish your boundaries with your partner, the areas that you’re okay with and not okay with being touched, and learn their spots as well. Touching and being touched in all the right places makes for a steamy, sensual, and wild adventure that’ll make you say “Is it time to leave already? I want to stay in this moment forever.”
Cheers to all, and have fun finding the X that marks your spot!
Nora xxx
